Togetherness with trust

 

     Yesterday, when I sat to drink coffee, a couple at the table next to me were talking, and suddenly I heard him say romantic words 

'you can trust me so  you should dance freely because i'll never and ever let go of your hand.' 

I was surprised by his expression and i said WoW. then it reminded me of a story I heard a long time ago. The story is like this...

    Little girl and her Mother were crossing a bridge. Mother was kind of scared so she asked her little daughter,

‘Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don’t fall into the river.’

The little girl said, ‘No Mom You hold my hand.’

‘What’s the difference?’ Asked the puzzled mother.

‘There’s a big difference,’ replied the little girl.

‘If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go.’

    In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond.So hold the hand of the person who loves you rather than expecting them to hold yours. Because holding hands is not only about taking care, its also about trust and love you have for that person.

Trust means that you rely on someone else to do the right thing. You believe in the person's integrity and strength, to the extent that you're able to put yourself on the line, at some risk to yourself. Trust is essential to an effective team, because it provides a sense of safety.

No matter what aspect of your life you’re thinking about, trust is always a major factor. That could be in the family unit; the neighbourhood,  on the sporting field or in the workplace. Of course it’s always prevalent in your day to day decisions about your own life. If you fail to have faith in yourself and your decisions, it will be difficult for others to have the same regard for you.

trust is a feeling. It's an emotion that is incredibly powerful and a natural part of human relations. If you want to have a trusting relationship or a trusting work environment, you must do the work. You also must allow emotions to be a part of the environment.

The relationship between trust and love is a close one. Trust means trusting yourself, your own judgments and trusting others. Trust is the foundation for any relationship. Without it, the relationship will be shaky and will eventually fail. Lack of trust is the main reason relationships fall apart.

Relationships, arguments and even wars are fought over the aspect of trust. Some are won and others sadly, are lost. If your word is not your bond then you have very little else to bargain with. When others realize you are a person of your word, they learn to trust you. It’s these elements which build and maintain trust. When you are held in high regard as someone who can be trusted, it’s in this place that your business is more likely to thrive.

Trust is an attitude we have towards people whom we hope will be trustworthy, where trustworthiness is a property not an attitude. Trust and trustworthiness are therefore distinct although, ideally, those whom we trust will be trustworthy, and those who are trustworthy will be trusted.

Trust and respect are also of fundamental importance when dealing with people who are disadvantaged. They are vulnerable and very often lost and alone. It’s important for their dignity that when you hold out a helping hand to them, they can see you as someone on whom they can depend. Whenever interacting with people who are disadvantages, never look down on them. Threat them with the respect they deserve as you build mutual regard.

Too often there is a tendency to look down on disadvantaged people, especially those who are homeless. We can view them as worthless and thereby disrespecting them without giving thought to their circumstance I’m constantly amazed when people claim to be overworked and under constant pressure, yet fail to do the one thing most likely to ease their burdens: trust other people more. They don’t delegate, because they don’t trust people to do what they’ve been asked to do; so they have to take on every significant task themselves. They attend every meeting, however futile, because they don’t trust others not to talk about them behind their back, or reach decisions they don’t like. They demand copies of every memo, report and e-mail, because they don’t trust what might be said if they’re not watching. They’re constantly keyed-up and tense, watching for rivals or other departments to launch some covert operation to undermine their position. It’s not the pressure of actual work that’s driving them towards some stress-related illness, it’s their lack of trust in anyone and anything.